I solved my dilemma, to Blog or to Dog. It turns out that those two choices have a lot in common. Both are approached with fears, defined by trial and error, and launched with blind hope.
I discovered this while accompanying my sister, Celeste Gantz, to the Healdsburg Animal Shelter. Bailey, Celeste and her husband’s dog died, much to our great grief. Their home was much too quiet. No nails clicking on the hardwood floors at midnight. No wet dog toys stuffed in the corner of the couch. A half-full bag of treaties left beside the cereal. We all miss him.
Celeste saw an ad on-line for “Cooper” at the shelter. He looked friendly, substantial, a “doggy dog”. All morning she debated whether we should go check him out. What if it was too soon after Bailey died? How could she leave him behind if he might be euthanized? What would she do if she liked him, but Clay didn’t? We went to get coffee and pastries instead. Stalling.
Later, Clay asked us if we’d seen him. No good excuses left. It was only 2:00. Three hours before the shelter closed.
On the 20-minute drive, Celeste brainstormed all the reasons she should have a dog and the many reasons she shouldn’t. “Dogs are inconvenient…” was her last comment as she leapt out of her car.
We met with Cooper and Celeste took him through his paces. He sat when commanded, stayed, didn’t jump much, and let us pet him. He was clean, healthy…a very adoptable dog. He checked out the pee scents in the yard and came to us only when commanded. Celeste didn’t smile much.
She decided to fill out the paperwork and think about it. Just as she was leaving the counter, she said to the staff, “It’s hard to decide. We’ve always been more of a Lab, Sheltie family.” In chorus, the two women said, “Have you seen Cowboy?” There was such joy in their voices, Celeste and I turned toward each other and mouthed, “Cowboy?”
Four seconds later, (They were fast!) we stood in front of “Cowboy”. He stared up at us as if we were the loves of his life. Celeste gasped and her tears shot straight out. She put her hand to her heart and cried, “Now, that’s what I’m talking about!”
We took him out to the yard and he did all the same routines. The difference was, when she said, “Good Dog!”, he wriggled all the way from his slobbery tongue to his otter-like tail. She called Clay and he was there in moments. The joy in her voice was all he needed to hear. When Clay walked into the dog yard, Cowboy greeted him by bowing his head. He pressed his forehead and snout gently against Clay’s thigh.
Well done, Dog! The deal was done.
So, does this sound like your blog? You’re afraid to start. You think of a ton of reasons why you can’t or why your topic is no good. You stall. There’s a deadline. You start with a standard bag of techniques to create a logical, reasonable piece. It could be okay. But something’s missing! You try again, maybe even starting over. Finally, whether it’s a line that makes you laugh or weep, you call out, “Now, That’s what I’m talking about!” You’ve found the flow. The deal is done.
You should know, we’ve called him “Jake”.
(We’ve since learned Healdsburg is a “no-kill” shelter. Check out where our pal is now living happily! Gantz Family Vineyards. Celeste, good luck on your blog!)
Smart dog. Woulda worked on me. But I would have kept the name “Cowboy” 🙂
Checked out Celeste’s blog. A vineyard! How exciting! I wonder if there’s any way I can get my hands on a bottle of their wine 🙂
He is really a neat dog! I really hope they do end up selling their wine. Clay’s an excellent winemaker…but his grapes won’t be ready for years. RATS! See you tomorrow night! Love, Cathy
Jake sounds like a wonderful addition to the family!
Afraid to start…
I don’t find that is so much the problem as finding a topic that others might want to hear about rather than the me-me-me syndrome. 🙂
Hi Char… just wanted to offer this thought based on my experience with the blogs I tend to follow. I find, the blogs that capture my attention are the ones where the author passionately writes about their passions! In other words, it’s not so much about finding what others might want to hear about, but maybe more, writing passionately about what you care about, trusting that is what will attract readers 🙂 Just a thought. Happy blogging.
He is a good one! And I think you do a good job of staying off the “me”syndrome!
Excellent blog Cathy. It is soooooo true. You’ve got to start somewhere. You have to take the chance. I suppose it is a little bit like owning a dog…. you’ve got to deal with some poop to get to the good stuff!! I really enjoyed this!